good psychology

2011-09-19T06:56:00.001-07:00

This has been very commonly observed that people with OCD use cyber space a lot more than any other person . Main reason for which is thier obsessive doubts . More doubts they get more answers they recieve from net. On the results again they get doubts and it goes on and on .
Common obsessions are of two types . 1. Cleanliness 2. Pathological doubts of getting infection or doing things incorrectly .
Medications and psychotherapy really helps in such cases. Person can leave much much better life with treatment .

Can u keep focussing on positive thoughts and resist negative thoughts

2011-01-21T05:09:00.001-08:00

It becomes a big trouble all the time if u insist on focussing on positive thoughts all the time . Because u insist u "must" not get negative thoughts which is irrational and constant compulsion creating activity .
If some thought u label as positive then automatically u know there is negative . You should be able to focus on negative thoughts and emotions as well find out roots on which u can act and remove both , roots and branches . If u keep on avoiding negative thoughts and emotions u will keep them in back of ur mind , Which can jump up with appropriate opportunity .
Its definately preferable to keep focus on positive but u should not avoid negative as well. Only if u focus on negative u can contest it into positive emotion and hence positive behaviour.

Good and bad

2011-01-10T05:44:00.001-08:00

Both good and bad thoughts come to our mind . Its natural human tendency to fall again and again for pleasure.accept it. Still the choice is there to stand again .u need to have persistant strong goals and motives in life which give u real pleasure in your life . Then u will pulled away from negativities.

Other person's presence - help / trouble

2011-01-10T05:38:00.001-08:00

1. If someone is observing u , u may work better to show that u work better.
2.u may not work properly due to anxiety about opinion of other person.
3. U may keep feeling that other is always needed for ur growth. Practically difficult to get one all the time.
4. Dependence for growth on other itself is restricting growth.
So its better to help yourself .

Fight with fear of failure

2011-01-09T02:57:00.001-08:00

Fear of failure , fear of failing in exams , fear of disapproval

2011-01-09T02:37:00.001-08:00

A fear that comes from anticipated failure leads to lack of motivation into the activity itself. What are the common beliefs which lead to this fear -
1. If i fail , its horrible and i can't stand it.
2.my failure in the activity means i am a failure.
3.my failure will lead to disapproval from significant people in my life which i ll not be able to telerate.
4.since i am a "failure" up till now i "deserve" failing . So no doubt if i fail .
5. If i am already afraid of failing which will make me fail then it will not be possible to come out of this problem.
All these irrational thoughts keep a vicious circle rotating . We ll see how it can be overcome .

REBT believes in philosophical cure

2011-01-08T07:59:00.001-08:00

As per rational emotive behaviour therapy , most of the problems we face are not directly due to the adversities directly but due to our wrong philosophies . I.e. The way we decide to handle the problem . I ll try to show the philosophies which have helped me and my patients . Also wrong philosophies which we commonly use . So that we can lead a better rational and happy life .

Goals

2011-01-06T18:00:00.000-08:00

This site is all about good psychology and its benefits for happy and healthy life.

Healthy mind

2011-01-05T23:06:00.001-08:00